Now that more and more couples are frequenting adult bookstores and more girlfriends and wives are playing at gloryholes, there are a number of guys who go to the bookstore hoping to get some attention of the female variety.  And why not?  The women are there for that purpose.  They are hoping for a bit of attention themselves, right.  The problem is that with the presense of female flesh, a lot of guys have started thinking with their little heads.  That could mean bad results for everyone involved.  Allow me to share my two cents worth after a recent visit to our local adult bookstore. 

 The CVE is an adult bookstore that we frequent from time to time. We haven't been in a while. In fact, not since we were there with Ted and Brenda a couple of months ago. We decided to drop by this past Sunday afternoon. Aside from the typical bookstore sales area, the CVE has video booths and a theater (Learn more about the CVE here). The booths are different than most places. You don't drop tokens or feed dollars in the machine. You pay a flat rate to get in and watch whatever you want to. That leads to a LOT of roaming. Seems like very few people just go into a booth and close the door to watch a video. Of course, the place is known for couples so most of the guys are hoping to experience a little "quality time" with a woman through a glory hole.

Sunday, the roaming seemed to be worse than normal. We went straight to the theater. There was a pretty good scene with two girls using a strap on dildo when we came in. Lauren (and I) liked that. We started watching the scene that followed, but it was difficult. There were so many guys coming and going that it was really distracting. Now, I know that guys will want to see if a couple is up to something in a theater. I have no problem with that. Heck, we normally ARE up to something in the theater and she LIKES an audience. But when a guy drops in front of you, then stands up to walk away 90 seconds later, only to be followed by two more guys who do the same thing it can be annoying. It was not only in front of us, but behind us and beside us as well. A few of the guys would circle back through, sit down again for a minute or two then give up their seat for someone else to do the same. Maybe it was just me. I am used to prowlers, but for whatever reason it seemed worse on Sunday.

We finally got up to go check out the booths. I knew the guys would follow - they always do. But most of them are a bit more subtle about it. Not this crowd. I felt like the Pied Piper leading the parade of rats. As soon as we would pause they would dive into the nearby booths. Actually, that is not true. They would dive for the doorways and stand there, staring, silently. When the aisle was too congested to walk down, we headed to the couples room. It was empty, so we played a bit and then made a second run at the theater and the booths with pretty much the same results. We went back to the couples room, finished our business and then headed home.

I follow the Yahoo groups for gloryholes in the Carolinas. The guys complain often about the fact that there aren't as many couples as there used to be. On the whole, I think they have no one to blame but themselves. Don't get me wrong. We have met some nice people there, have had a lot of fun there, and will be going back at some point in the future. I just think that the guys who come in need to use their big heads. If they keep thinking with the little one there will be no more couples at CVE.

Consider a few things.

1. A first-time couple will only be a one-time couple. Women are already nervous enough when they walk into an adult bookstore. CVE has done a great job of creating a nice atmosphere in their bookstore. I don't think that it was by chance that they put the DVDs in a side room, leaving the main room for lingerie, toys, lotions and other things that women and couples would be most interested in. Even the back area is clean and well cared-for. The theater is very nice. All of this helps put a woman at ease. But when she sees a hoard of horney guys rushing and circling, she is not going to stick around. And her escort is going to have an impossible task of coaxing her back again.
2. Women are different than men. Duh. I know. But I don't think everybody knows. She needs time to relax, warm up, "get into the mood" - whatever. Let her have a few minutes to get into the movie and relax before you start.
3. You can raise your success ratio. Guys, want to know how EVERY guy we have ever played with got to play? One of two ways. First, as Lauren likes to say, Gentlemen get rewarded. A guy who sits near us, doesn't drool, doesn't grope, doesn't beg - a guy who quietly enjoys the show but shows some respect has a 99% probability of some attention. Second, the guy who has the nerve to do the unthinkable. I mean the kind of guy with the guts that few others could rise to. The few men who have learned the skill and are not afraid to put it to good use. What is the skill, you ask? Simple... Walk up and say hello. Start a conversation. If we are not interested, we will politely tell you. Even if you get a "no", you will be no worse off than you were before, right? It is interesting to me that from time to time Lauren has mentioned a guy that we chatted with in a theater or hallway or store or wherever. "He was cute. I wish we could have done something with him." I have seen the guys. Trust me, they aren't always "cute". But they are more attractive to her because they have a personality. The line of guys who keep their heads down, whimpering, hoping, looking at you like a wet puppy in the rain are not an attractive bunch. Think about it.

OK. I have gone on long enough... that is the advantage of a blog. I can ramble and nobody can tell me to be quiet.

Trust me guys. Say hello. You never know where it might get you.

Readers have left 3 comments.

 1. reply to Alex
g8torguy, Unregistered

Alex, you are 110% correct, I been to CVE a number of times alone, and have also been there on ocassion with a female friend, I am in total agreement with you, the men there just look like they are poor pupies waiting to be adopted..

I sometime sit back and laugh at how the men act, rather then strike up a conversation and get a woman to notice them, they follow a woman around just wimpering and drooling and thinking to themselves that shes going to just want him..

I think if any of those men knew anything about a woman they would realize that in a book store/theater she is there for the same fun, but woman like to be respected as well...
I think the best thing for a guy to do is try to find a woman to bring as a date, and before the evening is over he will realize what you are saying about saying hello rather than just stalking a woman..

Hopefully I will get to meet both you and lauren some evening there, I can assure you some good conversation, and respect to Lauren, after all just saying hello can lead to a GREAT time, and im not the best looking stud around, but I am a nice guy.... Mike

 Posted 2009-02-14 09:54:28

 2. Makes sense
Wes, Unregistered

I have been to CVE several times and never had much luck until last night. Normally I sort of hang back watching hoping that something might happen. I read this a few weeks ago and it made sense so last night I started chatting with a couple in the smoking room. We sorta clicked and I wound up getting a first class blow job while her husband watched from the next booth.

Thanks for the advice.

 Posted 2009-04-25 08:02:26

 3. Thank you!
c&k, Unregistered

We couldn't agree more. If the guys give us space and respect I can get into it in the theater. If they don't we are out of there. I hope this can help some of them who don't know how to act

 Posted 2009-06-04 07:20:54

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